How do you celebrate the holidays?
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Dec 22, 2007 - Written by Sasha Cagen | Filed under: Uncategorized
There’s a lot of propaganda about romance and coupledom at the holidays. The Christmas music on endless repeat in many retail establishments can be enough to do a single person in. The implication is. . . Christmas is all about cuddling up with that special someone, and if you’re single, better luck next year! I’ve never believed that you need to be in a relationship in order to enjoy the holidays. (Maybe because I’m a social quirkyalone and generally enjoy holiday parties, egg nog, and oddly enough Christmas caroling. . . yes!).
But I’m curious about how YOU feel about the holidays as a single person (or a quirkytogether–quirkyalone in a relationship). Do you survive them? Enjoy them? What words of advice do you have for other quirkyalones during the holidays?
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Are you a quirkyalone?
Quirkyalone: n. adj. a person who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and prefers being single to dating for the sake of dating. It’s a mindset. Quirkyalone is not anti-love. It is pro-love. It is not anti-dating. It is anti-compulsory dating. Quirkyalone is a book, a holiday, and a movement. Are you a quirkyalone? Take the quiz and read the original essay to find out.
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owen
Jan 01, 2008
comments rock, thank you so much.
seth
Jan 01, 2008
Just found you after a friend sent me that NYT article–too bad it was more about marketing than finding community, which I think is the hardest challenge as a single, childless person. Almost all of my friends are now married with kids, but luckily they’re all open to having me around. I’ve asked some to include me in family outings if they feel like it (most assumed I wouldn’t want to). So I just spent Xmas and New Year’s at dinner parties where I was the only single person–and didn’t feel isolated or alone because I wasn’t.
Raj
Jan 02, 2008
I am getting married this year, but was a qa for a long time. I am getting married because I have met a man I love and really enjoy being with, but being in a couple or getting married just to be married -that doesn’t make sense to me.
QAs rock-we shpuld stay the way we are and only marry/date when the right person comes along and not do it because of societal pressures.
Being lonely in a couple is IMHO a lot worse than being lonely alone.
Tina
Jan 04, 2008
I found your website after reading the NYT article also. It was actually nice to hear about a website dedicated to NOT feeling like you’re incomplete until you are in a relationship. I generally spend the holidays with family and friends. I will admit there are times when I look around enviously at the married couples and families, but I still can’t bring myself to be with someone just to be with someone. This is the argument I seem to have with people more times than I should have to. I look forward to exploring the site! Thanks!!!
Barbara
Jan 07, 2008
Christmas is about lights, decorations, and yes – presents! They don’t have to be expensive, just numerous. Christmas 2005 was a bummer for me. Everybody in my large family was part of a couple except for me that year. The worst part was when I had to watch the couples coo and shower each other with gifts while I sat there with my (one) present. I felt so left out, and none of them even noticed. It was the first time I felt I was no longer being treated as an equal in my family because I wasn’t part of a couple. Dammit, I am an equal! My siblings are no better than me. But my mom sends the message very clearly. At every family holiday gathering, she assigned sleeping quarters by “rank.” Married with children – best bedroom. Married without children – second bedroom. Girlfriend/boyfriend – last bedroom. Single (me) – on the floor in the den with my head – literally – next to the cat litter pan. Yuck. Maybe I should go to Cancun next Christmas.