Jane Fonda Is A Born-Again Quirkyalone

In my book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics, I describe the two types of quirkyalones: there are womb quirkyalones, who pretty much knew they were quirkyalone since birth, and born-again quirkyalones who have an Aha moment later in life. Read more about the two types in the book to figure out which one you are. Actress, political activist, and fitness guru Jane Fonda talks about her Aha moment as a born-again quirkyalone in the August issue of O.

“I always had a penchant for falling in love. Every time I found myself without a mate, I fell into a state of low-sizzling panic. I was so devastated by my second divorce that I had a nervous breakdown. That was when Ted[Turner, Fonda’s third husband] first asked me out. But in January 2000, when Ted and I separated, something felt different.
Right after we decided to part ways, Ted flew me to Atlanta to stay at my daughter Vanessa’s house. She was in Paris, so I spent my first two weeks at her house alone. In the past, I’d always tried to stay busy to avoid hurting, but this time I knew I needed to be still for a while. So I raked leaves in her yard, read, and went for long walks. On my third day there, I was in a tiny bedroom with my golden retriever, Roxy, when suddenly it hit me: I don’t need a man to feel whole. In my marriages, I’d lost part of who I was because I was trying to mold myself into what I thought a man wanted me to be. But in that moment, I felt all those pieces flying back together. . . .
After that nine busy years passed without a relationship. I wasn’t even looking. . . .
At 73 I’m essentially shacking up–and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I recently made two movies; I’m writing; I go away by myself. I have my own life, and Richard doesn’t care that I don’t share every single aspect of it with him. I’m not losing myself in this relationship. I’m bringing myself–the real Jane–and he’s giving me his real self, too. Richard and I have an emotional intimacy I’ve never experienced before, because we’re both coming into this relationship whole. We don’t censor ourselves, or leave what we think may not be good enough outside, on the porch.”

Have you had your own born-again quirkyalone moment? Share in the comments with your fellow qas.

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One comment on “Jane Fonda Is A Born-Again Quirkyalone
  1. nina roy says:

    Dear Jane,

    I’ve always admired the life choices you’ve made and the person that you are! Last night, I happen to catch you on MSNBC on the Tonight Show discussing your new book! (I live in Cambodia, by the way, so the odd chances of catching you on TV are rather remote.)

    I couldn’t help thinking how fantastic you looked and how much fun you are as a person – smart, classy and warm!

    I do agree with your comments on quirkyalone moments. I’m separated from my husband and am enjoying myself without needing to be tied to anyone. My friends keep telling me to find someone but I feel so happy by myself with my friends and my interests. Too often, people run away from themselves and I’ve found myself and like myself. I enjoy my company as I’m easygoing and low maintenance and have a lot of fun with my friends and by myself – just lost in reading, thinking and just listening to music or watching movies.

    Please keep inspiring us with your journey of self-discovery!

    Keep well!

    Warm regards,


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A quirkyalone is a person who enjoys being single (or spending time alone) and so prefers to wait for the right person to come along rather than dating indiscriminately. Quirkyalones prefer to be single rather than settle.
Quirkyalones can also be married or in a committed relationship (quirkytogether). You can be a man or a woman, any age.
Quirkyalone is ultimately a philosophy about finding happiness within yourself whether you’re single or in a relationship.

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