Welcome to quirkyalone.net, the online home of the quirkyalone movement!
Who We Are
Quirkyalones are people who enjoy being single (but are not opposed to being in a relationship) and prefer being single to dating for the sake of being in a relationship. It’s a mindset.
Quirkyalone is not anti-love. It is pro-love. It is not anti-dating. It is anti-compulsory dating. We tend to be romantics. We prefer to be single rather than settle. In fact, the core of quirkyalone is the inability to settle. We spend a signficant chunk of our lives single because we hold relationships to a high standard.
Are quirkyalones loners? Not necessarily. Quirkyalones often value friendship very highly. We’re often very social people. But we do value occasional solitude. Quirkyalones are often creative and need time alone to allow thoughts to fully form.
Fundamentally, quirkyalone isn’t so much about being alone as it is about connection: with yourself and others. It’s about liberating yourself from the expected road maps to discover your own. It’s about developing comfort with aloneness and recognizing that comfort is crucial to being with someone else.
The quirky in quirkyalone is really about authenticity. It’s about accepting yourself in all your quirky glory, and being fully yourself, whether you’re single or in a relationship.
The alone part is about willing to stand out from the crowd, to go to a wedding alone rather than go with a date, for example, out of social obligation. It’s about resisting the tyranny of coupledom, the prevailing notion that you must be in a relationship at all times in order to be happy.
It’s about preserving solitude in an era of hyperconnectivity so that you can be comfortable and full alone, and therefore fully present with another human being.
Quirkyalone is about:
- loving thyself
Quirkyalone is not about:
- perpetual singlehood
It’s Not Just For Single People
Quirkyalones is a mindset that transcends relationships status. It’s a newly articulated set of ideas about being in single and in relationships expressed through a set of vocabulary‹quirkyalone, quirkyslut, and quirkytogether‹that’s designed to inspire conversation in a fun, ironic way.
It’s a tool for conversation about singledom and relationships in a new era where unmarried households are becoming a majority. Quirkyalone is a movement that has received extensive media attention everywhere from USA Today to CNN to the New York Times.
Don’t forget: You can be quirkytogether
Quirkyalones is a mindset that transcends relationship status. A quirkyalone can also be quirkytogether ( a quirkyalone in a relationship). The quirkytogether state is covered in its own chapter in Quirkyalone.
And let’s not forget the quirkyslut. Quirkyalones are sexual creatures and can segue into quirkyslut status. He or she maintains high standards for a romantic relationship, but becomes more flexible for the Saturday (or even Tuesday) night encounter.
About the Book
Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics meets the demand for a deeper dive into the quirkyalone perspective on life, love, and relationships. Quirkyalone is now available at bookstores nationwide and has been translated and published in Brazil, Germany, and Denmark. Publisher’s Weekly calls the book, “Fun, inspirational and provocative.”
International Quirkyalone Day
International Quirkyalone Day (Feb. 14) is a DIY celebration of romantic, friendship, and independent spirit. International Quirkyalone Day is not anti-Valentine’s Day. It just happens to fall on the same day. Couples as well as singles are invited to attend.
International Quirkyalone Day is a grassroots movement. It’s been celebrated in over 40 cities across the four continents since 2003.
About This Site
Quirkyalone.net launched in 2004 with the publication of Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics.
This website provides information about author events and other grassroots happenings organized by local QAs. First conceived as a promotional site for the book, it quickly evolved to become a vibrant community and, in 2009, a group-edited blog. The site is updated daily with posts on topics including dating, sex, movies, travel, relationships, friendship, politics, and community.
If you’re interested in joining as a contributing writer, please info AT quirkyalone.net with 3-5 ideas of topics you’d want to write about and 3-5 URLS linking to blog posts you have written.
The response to the quirkyalone book and concept has been overwhelming, and many of you have asked for an online forum. Who would we be to deny you?
Now we have an online community where quirkyalones discuss life, pop culture, relationships, politics, and more
Want More Quirky in your Life?
If you would like to up the level of quirkyness in your life, here are five ways you can do that with me:
Go Forth and GetQuirky, online course and community
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Read my books Quirkyalone and To-Do List!
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