Meet Sasha

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Hello! I’m Sasha Cagen. I am the author of Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics and I founded the quirkyalone movement.

I’ve been writing, talking, thinking, and teaching about being quirkyalone, quirkytogether, a quirkyslut, and more since all the way back in the late 90s. Amazingly the adventure continues as this movement gathers steam and is always taking on new manifestations. I never could have predicted that fusing these two words together would be so powerful, or that so many different kinds of people from all over the world would identify so strongly with “quirkyalone” and become part of this movement.

Quirkyalone stands for confidence, true love, self-love, authenticity, and connection. It’s not so much about being alone as it is about being true to yourself. Those are my values too, as I craft a life that feels authentic to me, and I help others do the same in my coaching, online classes, and travel adventures.

My work a writer, life coach, and community-builder has been featured in the New York Times, CNN, NPR, USA Today, MSNBC, London Guardian and more.

When I’m not writing or coaching, you can find me dancing tango, either in Buenos Aires or in the Bay Area. Or watching a marathon of Downton Abbey or House of Cards. I love to travel and spent more than a year traveling alone in South America. Those travels will be told in my new book, a memoir.

Rhode Island is my home state. And Rhode Island is pretty quirky. So that might explain it. . .

My next book — WET — yes, you heard the title right, is the story of how my journey of sensuality through South America and North America changed my life. It’s about how connecting to ourselves through our sensuality can give us all sorts of power and intimacy, in and outside the bedroom. WET is percolating in my computer and I can’t wait to share it with you.

The best way to stay in touch with all my quirky and now WET projects and inspiration is to sign up for my mailing list. Join the quirky family and join the conversation!

A few quirky links

To get to know more about me and my work, here are some links. Enjoy!

–For International Quirkyalone Day 2013, I did an hourlong NPR interview about changing ideas of being single and romantic relationships, aka quirkyalone and quirkytogether

–When my book To-Do List came out, I did an authors@google talk on what our to-do lists reveal about us

–This 700-word original quirkyalone essay was a viral sensation that led to my book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics

Chatting with Anderson Cooper when Quirkyalone came out. . .

During my solo travels though South America in 2010 and 11, I discovered tango in Cali, Colombia (the world capital of salsa). I was so high on life and tango that I decided I wanted to give a tango show with my teacher Oscar. I did NOT know tango yet (I had only been dancing tango six weeks!) and yet this was a high point of my life. Talk about stepping outside the comfort zone! This scene will be in my upcoming book Wet but you can see the performance now.

Like what I’m up to?

Excellent! You can read a book, follow along with my quirky community, join a class, get private coaching, come on a trip, or hire me to do a workshop at your company.

Read my books:
Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics
To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us

Discover tango with me in this Quirky-Sexy Tango Adventure in Buenos Aires!

Talk to me about coaching you.

Invite me to create a workshop on quirkyness, creativity, and innovation for your your team. Here’s one I did for a San Francisco insurance company.


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You have landed on the online home of the quirkyalone movement! A quirkyalone is a person who prefers being single to dating for the sake of dating. It’s a mindset. Whether you're quirkyalone, quirkytogether, or a friend of quirkyalones, welcome. Here's the manifesto
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Sasha chats with Anderson Cooper

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