Global Quirkyalone Day Party for 2014: Shout it out! Are you in?

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This year is the tenth anniversary of the publication of my book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics. I have been so touched by all the deep connections, sharing, friendships and relationships that have been created by the movement associated with this book. Most of all, it moves me when they tell me Quirkyalone gave them a new sense of self-respect.

International Quirkyalone Day is coming up on February 14 and I want to make it a special one for the tenth anniversary. International Quirkyalone Day is a do-it-yourself celebration of romance, friendship, and independent spirit. It’s a celebration of all kinds of love: romantic, platonic, familial, and yes, self-love. International Quirkyalone Day is not anti-Valentine’s Day. It’s NOT a pity party for single people. It’s an alternative–a feel-good alternative to the marketing barrage of Valentine’s Day and an antidote to the silicone version of love presented in shows such as The Bachelor. IQD has been celebrated locally by people in over 40 cities around the world.

I posted on the Quirkyalone Facebook page asking people for ideas for how to celebrate. German QA Andreas, a graduate of GetQuirky, came up with a great idea to celebrate Quirkyalone Day GLOBALLY.

Andreas’ idea is inspired by Ringo Starr, who asked people around the world to say “peace and love” on his birthday at the same moment in 2010.

Let’s throw a global shout-out party at noon on Quirkyalone Day (February 14)
At noon on February 14, wherever you are in the world, say, “Happy Quirkyalone Day.”

Let’s spread the message of quirkyalone peace and self-love to appreciate ourselves and this moment.

February 14 at noon . . . on Facebook or Twitter or Pinterest or wherever you hang out online. . .

Post:
–A photo of you with a piece of paper wishing people Happy Quirkyalone Day.

–A video of you wishing friends Happy Quirkyalone Day, share what Quirkyalone Day means for you and/or how you are going to celebrate.

–Say hello, and happy February 14, happy IQD!

–Share quirky cat videos from YouTube.

–However you want to express yourself. Be quirky! Your choice!

This is your Quirkyalone Day gift to the world to turn them on to the possibility of more self-love and self-confidence single or partnered.

Are you in?
–When you post on Facebook on February 14 at noon, tag “Quirkyalone” so your greetings show up on the Quirkyalone page.

–On Twitter, use hashtag #happyquirkyaloneday.

Let’s do a global movement of quirkyalone peace and love!

JOIN the event (party) here on Facebook.

Can’t wait to see your greetings at noon February 14!

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Be sure to get on the list

me toasting you with a cosmopolitan

me toasting you with a cosmopolitan

Aloha quirkyalones! Please be advised that I’m doing most of my blogging over at sashacagen.com where I share my classes, trips, coaching, events, and writing. The best way to stay in touch is to sign up for my mailing list: Sasha’s List. You’ll be kept in the loop and get inspiration for your quirky life. See you in your inbox. :)

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Come to Buenos Aires with me!

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Would you like to dance? I hereby invite you to join me for an for an intimate immersion experience into tango, quirkyalone, and quirkytogether in Buenos Aires this May. The Quirky Sexy Tango Adventure is a unique opportunity to travel to gorgeous Buenos Aires and learn tango at its source. You also get to learn about tango as a metaphor for personal growth as a quirkyalone and quirkytogether.

I love bringing together my love for tango with the lessons that tango has to teach us for our personal growth and relationships, and I’m thrilled to do that with you in this 6-day adventure.

The details are here, and registration will open very soon.

If you want in, put this on your calendar and sign up for this special mailing list. Space will be extremely limited and I’ll offer spaces first to the people on the special list.

Click here to get the details about the QuirkySexy Tango Adventure!

P.S. I got the energy and inspiration to manifest this dream by using the tools that I teach in GetQuirky where I listen to the things that really call to me and give me the most energy in life. If you want to get in touch with your spark for 2014, and get support and a structure for accountability for making your dreams happen, then join us for the GetQuirky New Year’s Edition class starting next Monday January 13. It’s an online class so you can take it from anywhere. For some extra fun, I’m adding a little contest. There will be a raffle and if you are part of this special New Year’s class, you get the chance win a FREE 1-hour coaching session with me. I will be drawing one lucky winner during the class kickoff Monday January 13. Click here to get the details and sign up.

P.P.S. Feel free to hit reply with questions about The QuirkySexy Tango Adventure or the GetQuirky online class.

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Join us in a #GetQuirky Photo Safari and win a spot in the next class!

truly quirky fashion spotted by beta GetQuirky graduateelorrainem

truly quirky fashion spotted by beta GetQuirky graduate elorrainem in Pittsburgh, PA

quirky license plate spotted by Sue Vittner in Portland, Maine

quirky license plate spotted by Sue Vittner in Portland, ME

get quirky graduate andreas found these quirky frogs on a wander in germany

GetQuirky grad Andreas (username tofudish on Instagram) found these frogs on a wander in his native Germany

The next session of my online class GetQuirky starts September 9. GetQuirky is a 21-day adventure that helps you to embrace your quirks so that you SHINE. In all areas of your life. Seriously, embracing your quirks can help spark up your creativity, work, dating, your relationship with yourself and others, even your sex life. (When you start to embrace your quirks, SO much more is possible!).

In preparation for the next session, I’m sponsoring a contest that I hope will get us all out to play and raise the collective quirky energy field!

Let’s go on a quirky photo safari! You can win a spot in the next GetQuirky.

#Getquirky Photo Safari Contest Instructions
1. Download instagram if you don’t have it on your phone already

2. When you are out and about, keep your eye out for things that strike you as quirky. Anything unusual or irregular, inimitably itself, that inspires you. We’re talking nature, art, fashion, signs, shopwindows, architecture, people, restaurant menus, gnomes! You can do this on vacation or at home, anytime.

3. Upload your photo using Instagram and tag the photo #getquirky. This will put your photo in the pool of all the photos tagged #getquirky. If you want, tell us what it inspires in you.

For inspiration, check out the #getquirky photos uploaded so far HERE.

The Prize!
The person who gets the most “hearts” (aka likes) on a photo wins on a spot in the September session of GetQuirky.

The hearts will be counted by August 27 and the winner will be announced shortly thereafter. Photos uploaded between August 5 and 27 are eligible.

Why do this?
My 21-day class GetQuirky is designed as a series of creative and reflective adventures to help you celebrate the quirky in you and around you. We make the celebration of quirkyness a habit–and that helps us to get to know ourselves and shine.

Every weekend during the class, I invite you to go on a creative wander. We consciously unplug from the Internet for at least several hours so we can plug into ourselves.

One weekend, we go on a quirky photo safari. Often walks alone are where we feel our spark and our creativity. I suggest taking a walk. A quirky photo safari gives shape to a walk. We wander, take photos of things that inspire us as quirky, then share the photos on our private group and what they inspire in us. It can be deep, surprising, revealing—and fun.

The next session of GetQuirky starts September 9.
Click HERE to read all the details and sign up for the early notification list and get first dibs on registration.

If you have questions about the class or contest, post them here. Don’t worry, you don’t have to be an Instagram user already to take part in this contest or to join the class. I’m an Instagram newbie and got the hang of it quickly. 😉 It’s pretty fun.

With love,
Lady Q Sasha

P.S. For inspiration, follow these quirkypeeps on Instagram. These “graduates” of the beta GetQuirky session know about quirky photo safaris:
avisco17
elorrainem
threesquirrels
tofudish.
You can also follow me: sashacagen.

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Ten Quirkytogether Relationships from Around the World

Sue, my co-teacher in Quirkytogether 101, and her QT beau

Sue, my co-teacher in Quirkytogether 101, and her QT beau

What does it look like for you to show up as your quirkyself in a relationship–you, all your quirks and dreams and all?

I’m teaching a new weeklong class called Quirkytogether 101 and that’s what we’ll be talking about. Click HERE to find out more about the class and join us!

What does “quirkytogether” mean to you? I’ve been asking people that in my survey. I share these definitions from people in India, Germany, El Salvador, the US, the UK, and Canada to inspire you. These people are all thought leaders in the quirkyalone movement showing us what quirkytogether can look like!

The main theme I’m seeing so far in my research is that quirkytogether relationships allow us to expand and get bigger in our individual selves, rather than contract and get smaller, which is the story we hear so often about people losing themselves in relationships. You can also have a quirkytogether friendship, which is distinct from a non-quirkytogether friendship.

So what does that really look like in the real world. . .

From India and Germany to El Salvador and Canada and the U.S., here are ten definitions of quirkytogether

1. “The relationship felt like it was a quirkytogether…mostly because we egged each other on to be better, career-wise and life-wise.”–Kavita Gonsalves, a thirtysomething single woman, Mumbai, India

2. “Not being afraid to just be ‘me.’ At this age, just dating after the loss of my husband, I have no need to be anything but my weird and wonderful self.”–Fiftysomething woman who’s dating, Michigan, U.S.

3. “To find someone quirky and confident and beautiful who will find me equally beautiful in my quirkyness. (I’ve always used the terms weird and weirdos.)”–David, twentysomething man in an open relationship, California, U.S.

4. “Two mismatched socks with their own vibrant patterns finding and completing each other. They are individuals who don’t blend in with the rest of the beige socks. In real terms, two people who march to their own drummer and don’t want to give up their own rhythm in life. I liked being solo. I was not going to settle down if it meant me sacrificing what is essentially me. My husband is different too. He allows me to bloom instead of wither. This is a challenge to face as I’m a mommy of two small children. Keeping identity paramount!“–Married woman, 39, Georgia, U.S.

5. “Does not follow the beaten path. May raise some eyebrows.”–Single and dating woman in her late sixties, Bavaria, Germany

6. “My partner and I have an ability to be ‘alone together.’ We like to be in each other’s company all the time, but we aren’t necessarily interacting, we are each pursuing our own interests. When we do come together to share an activity, it usually relates to our shared passions, although we are each very supportive of the other’s separate pursuits. We have no blended identity per se, we believe 1 + 1 = 2.”–Miranda Criger, fortysomething woman in a committed relationship, California, U.S.

7. “A beautiful way for quirkyalones to evolve. It’s about going beyond the comfort with singledom that comes with being quirkyalone and achieving a deeper love of self that can blossom into a deeply loving relationship with another equally self-realized soul. Quirkytogether bonds are formed between two individuals who are unconditionally themselves, and who love and accept themselves so deeply that they are able to experience love with another soul that is rooted in compassion, acceptance, and understanding.”–Twentysomething single woman, Montreal, Canada

8. “For me, quirkytogether is about being oneself, allowing the other person to do what they want to do. He’s a musician, I’m a painter, I have a dayjob and a hundred other commitments, he was in and out of work. I saw a volunteering placement in a completely different country that I thought would be right for him and he went for it. A lot of our friends were taken aback and thought that it meant that we weren’t committed to each other, because I was happy to be apart for a year. I think the support that it takes to be apart from each other to pursue better things and therefore be ourselves, makes it a much better relationship.”–Twentysomething woman in a committed relationship, South Yorkshire, UK

9. “A relationship where both parties can be true to themselves. I have a ‘quirkytogether’ relationship with one of my best friends, we just get each other. When others are scratching their heads we see the path and encourage each other. It’s not that she is more important to me as a friend, it just feels so different! I would like to have a quirkytogether romantic relationship!”–Thirtysomething single and dating woman, Devon, England

10. “In a quirkytogether relationship you accept a person, quirks and all. This does not mean you agree with the fact that they leave the toilet seat up, but you understand and engage in open, honest conversation about even the simplest of things.”–Twentysomething single woman, Ohio, U.S.

Here are three more, I said ten definitions, but I can’t hold back from sharing three more good ones with you!

11. “A lot of what makes me attractive, what I consider my quirky spirit, can be easily subsumed to the demands of coupledom. Quirkytogether is the relationship I aspire to have because I can stay me.”–Emily Miller, twentysomething single woman, Pennsylvania, U.S.

12. “Quirkytogether to me means coexisting with another quirkyalone, appreciating each other and all the little things that make us who we are. Walking beside someone because we want to, not because of any outer forces that might make us do so.”–Elisa, twentysomething single woman, San Salvador, El Salvador

13. “Quirkytogether means we can be as weird and geeky as we want. It also means we can do things apart. I got really lucky and found an amazing partner who has done a great deal of work on herself. For years I was single and uncompromised about it and it was worth the wait.”–Dominika Bednarska, thirtysomething woman in a committed relationship, California, U.S.

I love reading how other people interpret quirkytogether.

In our online Quirkytogether 101 class this summer, we’re going to dive deeper into the essence of quirkytogether. You compromise in a relationship, but you never compromise who you are.

It’s going to be an awesome weeklong learning and growth experience and you can participate from anywhere, that’s the beauty of the Internet. If you join us, you’ll have a very real interactive learning experience of discovering what quirkytogether looks like for you and getting inspired by others along this path.

CLICK HERE to find out more about the class and join us!

Looking forward to getting quirkytogether with you!
Sasha Cagen

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The Importance of Quirkyfriends

1024px-SparklerLight up your quirky-sparklers! Today is Independence Day in the United States.

An emerging group called CLUE (the Communication League for Unmarried Equality) asked me and other bloggers who write about singledom to write about independence and interdependence on July 4. CLUE’s goal is to dispel the myths that single people are total loners and lonely. Of course not! In fact, NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg writes in his book Going Solo that single people are more likely to volunteer, take art classes, and go to social events and public lectures than their married counterparts.

As the founder of the quirkyalone movement, I have always emphasized the importance of friendship, aka, significant others, plural. Quirkyalones don’t always have a one and only, but we highly value our friends.

How are you independent and interdependent?
Whether you are American or not, quirkyalone or quirkytogether, we’re all connected. We’re all independent and interdependent. It’s a beautiful helix of a paradox. Both are true.

I love independence. My values are all about freedom to be authentically who I am and to help others be authentically who they are so we can connect on that pure channel. To light up like a fourth of July sparkler.

Yet I recognize we are all interdependent. Human beings need others to help us thrive and to get us through tough spots like sickness or depression.

This July 4 we can celebrate our independence and our interdependence. (Dependence sounds like a bad word here, but it’s good to have people you can depend on. That’s a wonderful thing.)

Today on this July 4, I ask you to ask yourself, how are you independent and interdependent?

I asked myself that question and here’s what I came up with.

My most valuable, precious interdependence comes from my my quirkyfriends.

ale became my friend over the last six months in buenos aires. she's in argentina, and now i'm in california, but we still skype to keep our quirkyconnection alive.

ale became my friend over the last six months in buenos aires. we still skype to keep our quirkyconnection alive.

I live alone. I make most big decisions about my life independently. I would like to meet a quirkypartner when we collide–no forcing it–and also feel like I am enjoying life so much right now, as it is. Part of the reason that I feel so good right now is that I have friends who have supported me to be who I am and helped me to grow.

Friends who really get us help us to grow
My quirkyfriends are scattered over the world, in Belgium, Argentina, and the United States. These are friends who really get me. Whether I see these people in person or via Skype, they keep my independent spirit going. They understand my challenges and gifts and egg me on. I cheer them on to be their brightest too. Sometimes we challenge each other, and we tell each other the truth when it’s hard. We want the quirkylife for each other, and that can mean being single or being partnered (most of us do want a romantic partner), but we also understand that the single life is rich too.

You might not have quirkyfriends right now. That’s OK. There have been periods when I didn’t either.

Nurture your friendships
Realizing how important these connections are helps me to see it’s important to nurture them. Call each other and just chat for 5 minutes when you are waiting in line somewhere. Drop in on each other. Skype if you live a world away. Ask that new girl at work out for tea.

When we find this level of friendship, or potential friendship, we need to treat those connections as gold. Sometimes those connections are as special and valuable as a quirkyromantic partner. They are quirkylove.

So how are you independent and how are you interdependent? Would love to hear your thoughts on the comments.

P.S. I have an exciting announcement: I’m offering a new class called Quirkytogether 101. The class too is a celebration of independence and interdepence. I’m teaching this class with a longtime quirkyfriend and fellow life coach Sue Vittner!

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Are you ready for love, but scared to death it would mean losing yourself? This weeklong class will help you to get re-energized and passionate about love. The class will help you to imagine how you can be free within a relationship and stay fully who you are.

Quirkytogether relationships are different from the standard joined-at-the-hip, 1 + 1 = 1 way of thinking that still dominates the world’s understanding about soulmates and relationships.

The class size will be limited. Get on the early information list so you’ll be the first to hear when registration is open and grab a spot in this sure-to-be-awesome class and community. Check out Quirkytogether 101 here!

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Are you quirkytogether? Do you want to be? (Plus a fun river trip next weekend!)

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Quirkytogether is on the way! Those of you who have read my Quirkyalone book (published all the way back in 2004) know that quirkytogether is a very important chapter in the book.

Quirkytogether is about quirky appreciation. Of ourselves. And others. Quirkytogether is about creating a relationship in which both parties get to be fully themselves. Quirkytogether is what happens when quirky joins together. It’s a quirkyalone in a relationship, co-creating a unique, intimate relationship with another person where people stay whole and turned-on.

In 2013, we want to live in a world with a new kind of relationship, where we have intimate connections and partnership but we don’t necessarily merge, lose our individuality or our spark, and start wearing matching outfits and socializing at couples-only dinner parties! I’ve heard from one reader recently, that when a new girlfriend asked him to talk about defining their relationship, she asked “Should we be quirkytogether?” They had both read my Quirkyalone book.

I’m creating an online course about Quirkytogether that will be offered in late July (stay tuned and watch this space for details–it’s going to be awesome and fun as well as deep and thought-provoking). Sign up here to be on the special quirkytogether class advance warning list so you’ll be the first to hear. I’m also in the research phase for a Quirkytogether book (which I’m quite excited about as well).

To that end, I would like to invite you to be part of my research!

This survey is for you:
–if you are single and would like to be quirkytogether
–If you are frustrated along the path of finding your quirkytogether, I want to know why
–if you are in a relationship you consider quirkytogether, I want to hear about it
–if you have been in a relationship where you lost yourself and your spark, and you want to be more quirkytogether next time, I want to hear from you too.

Fill out this quirkytogether survey.

Looking forward to reading about your thoughts and stories of quirkytogether. . .
Lady Q Sasha

P.S. Here’s a last-minute invitation for those of you in California or nearby: Are you looking for something fun to do in nature on this upcoming Fourth of July holiday weekend? (In the United States, we are celebrate our independence day.)

Come join me and many other quirky souls For an indepenDANCE holiday retreat by the Stanisluas River, less than two hours from San Francisco.

This camping getaway weekend is wonderfully relaxing, green, and invigorating. There will be a lot of ecstatic dancing in nature, yoga, meditation, massage, and river-rafting on a peaceful calm river. I went to this retreat last summer, and I can tell you, the grounds are divinely beautiful. It’s sort of like a private mini-Burning Man, but more green and relaxing.

adults swinging by the river!

adults swinging by the river!

The organizers are running a special discount on this adventure until midnight Sunday night (6/30), so if you want to come get your groove on in nature, click over here and learn more–then get your tent and sleeping bag packed and ready!

If you sign up, write “Heard about this from Sasha Cagen” when they ask you how you heard about this trip.

Leave your cares, cell phones and computers behind. Come down to the river and play. FIND OUT MORE HERE!

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How Brazil Resurrected My Spirit

alma do brasil = soul of brazil! the soul of brazil is strong!

alma do brasil = soul of brazil! the soul of brazil is strong!

I’ve been writing to you about Argentina a lot lately because I spent the last eight months in Buenos Aires as a digital nomad (working) living my dream of immersing myself in tango. I loved those eight months!

I’ll be back in Oakland, California in a few days.

Before I fell in love with tango and Argentina, I fell in love with Brazil. Today I want to tell you about why I love Brazil and how that country resurrected my spirit when I was burnt-out working in Silicon Valley. I want to tell you because the Brazilian people are waking up in a most exciting way and it’s thrilling to see.

Brazil vs. Argentina
Brazil and Argentina are rivals. Argentines (well, let’s say Buenos Aires residents, Portenos) are moody and known for complaint, psychoanalysis, tango, beautiful architecture and being the “Paris of the South.” Complicated is the word for Buenos Aires. In a delicious way. They’re about the head.

Brazil, by contrast, is about the body. If complicated is the word for Argentina, let’s say wild and charismatic for Brazil. Brazilians, in general, and in my experience, are light and funny and are always up to embrace life. They know how to live. Every time I go to Brazil, I get an attitude adjustment. The country is well known for cosmetic surgery, but for me, Brazil gives me a spiritual adjustment every time I visit. Ah yes, this is what life is about. Enjoying life and enjoying having a body. Without shame.

Brazil resurrected my spirit.
I first came to visit Brazil for three magical weeks in 2008—my first big trip after many years of not traveling internationally.

On the way home from that first trip, I was standing in the food court of the Rio airport. I got a rush, a sensation, that I needed to come back to live in Rio. My body gave me a sign. In 2010 I made good on that sign and spent 6 months in Brazil, traveling and living in Rio.

My life changed so much when I discovered Brazil–and through the decision to travel alone. I’m at work on a book now–a memoir–about how my travels through Brazil, Colombia and Argentina gave me a new way to live my life–through pleasure and the body. I’m writing it for every woman and man who feels their disembodied spirit wither away in front of the computer screen. I’m especially writing it for single women.

Brazil resurrected my spirit. At that time, I was burnt-out, in a sexual and spiritual malaise, cynical, without any desire to do much of anything. Brazil was the spark plug that brought me back to life. I owe a huge debt of gratitude to Brazil for reviving me, and I have tremendous admiration for the Brazilian people’s spirit.

Now Brazilians have woken up!
Just as Brazil woke me up from my personal slumber, the Brazilian people are now waking up in a massive protest to stand up for themselves. Brazil is not known for protest and they have not protested in a massive way since the early 90s. My Brazilians friends keep using the words “we’re waking up!” on Facebook.

There is a saying that Argentines protest and Brazilians party, because Argentines constantly protest and Brazilians are always ready to look on the bright side. But that has changed this week. Brazilians can party and protest.

Just like their brothers and sisters in Turkey, the Brazilians are saying enough.

The immediate spark was a relatively small bus fare increase in Rio (but buses were already very expensive), and now protests are happening all over the country because people are fed up with watching the government pour millions of oil money into stadiums for the World Cup and the Olympics while people’s absolute basic needs are ignored. This story explains why middle- and working-class Brazilians are suddenly taking to the streets.

“Protestors are also gathering in front of the new sports stadiums built for the 2014 World Cup and 2016 Olympic games, which will be held in cities across the country. Brazilians want the basic needs met like reasonable healthcare, education and a government free of corruption – not $600M soccer stadiums that won’t be used after these events are over. . . Nurses are paid $250USD per month, which is even less than the menial $350USD per month minimum wage. People are literally dying while waiting to be seen, all while the government presides over one of the largest and most recently discovered oil fields in the world.”

Brazil has become incredibly expensive. Sao Paolo and Rio are ranked as the 10th and 12th most expensive cities in the world now. By contrast, New York City is 32nd. And yet, the minimum wage in Brazil is $350 a month! Many people make minimum wage.

My friends in Rio have been involved with these protests.

In December 2012, the last time I visited, two of my closest Brazilian friends invited me to join them to take a walk up to Morro da Providencia, the oldest favela in Rio. A favela is an autonomous community on a hill where very low-income people have created homes for many years. This particular favela has existed for 115 years. A theater group was stanging a performance to protest the planned Gestapo-like destruction of homes to make way for a tourist overlook.

in the favela morro da providencia, the government has spray-painted numbers on homes to indicate they will be demolished, but had not told the residents when

in the favela Morro da Providencia, the government has spray-painted numbers on homes to indicate they will be demolished, but had not told the residents when

We hiked up the cobblestoned streets and chatted with the favela’s residents along the way, confirming that numbers spray-painted on people’s houses meant these houses were slotted for demolition. They had not even been informed of when their homes will be destroyed. They were living in a limbo zone waiting for the demolition.

part of a theater performance in a favela (hilltop autonomous community) slated for destruction to make way for a tourist overlook

part of a theater performance in a favela (hilltop autonomous community) slated for destruction to make way for a tourist overlook

The theater performance consisted of a theater troupe reading a 17th century text of a Portuguese colonist aimed at indigenous people. The text was partially in Latin and my Brazilian friends didn’t understand most of the words, but the feeling of anger was unmistakable. Children from the favela were invited to splash water on the “colonists”—quite hard!—while they were reciting the text. The kids seemed to enjoy their role.

My friends had also been protesting the destruction of the Museo de Indios (Museum of Indians) which was being destroyed to make way for a parking lot for the World Cup! Talk about adding insult to injury, first the colonizers wiped out the Indian population, then they wanted to get rid of the museum commemorating them to make a parking lot for an ephemeral event!

You will be hearing more about Brazil from me in the future, especially in my new book. Brazil is very quirky! Here is a post I wrote about Brazil’s quirky soul and my favorite quirky places in Brazil.

They are definitely our brothers and sisters in the quirky revolution and deserve our support. You can help by sharing the deservedly #changebrazil viral video and of course this post.

in morro da providencia, the favela slated for destruction, faces carved into a wall by the Portuguese street artist Alexandre Farto

in morro da providencia, the favela slated for destruction, faces carved into a wall by the portuguese street artist Alexandre Farto

me and my friend iracema, this is the spot at the top of the hill which the city wants to turn into a tourist overlook (and is willing to displace hundreds of families to do)

me and my friend iracema, this is the spot at the top of the hill which the city wants to turn into a tourist overlook (and is willing to displace hundreds of families to do)

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