“Cagen is up to something that could be as important for women (and men) as The Feminine Mystique was years ago: We aren’t just halves of couples; we are distinct individuals—as complete and potentially happy alone as we are with our families and lovers. Thank you, Sasha, for giving us this proud and thoughtful declaration of independence!”–Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America

“You’ve done a brilliant job. It’s really awesome. Last time I was so moved by an author putting into words what I knew deep down in my soul but couldn’t quite express (or was afraid to) was reading Camille Paglia’s Sexual Personae. The book won’t keep still–so I have to read slowly–because my hands keep shaking with yes, yes, yes. QA reminds me of how gays say they knew from day one that they were gay. I can’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t know this was what I was–and that it went against the grain. You can imagine the obstacles in a very conservative Italian/Catholic family. No wonder I headed for the Left Coast at age 22, 100 bucks in my pocket.”–a reader

“Ahh, the single life. Can it ever be as fulfilling as married life. or divorced life? The quirkyalones argue it can be all that and more.”—Anderson Cooper

“Bachelorettes = out, quirkyalones = in”—Washington Post

“Exhorts singles to ‘resist the tyranny of coupledom.'”—New York Times

A bible for all those who reject archaic notions of relationships. Publisher’s Weekly says: “Fun, inspirational and provocative.” Read a sample chapter >

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Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics is loaded with individual voices of people who are constructing new approaches to life and love. Don’t expect to find linear narrative or cliched self-help lingo. Quirkyalones speak for themselves. The book is teeming with individual voices and personal stories. Every page is a treat, with juicy pop culture references, mad libs, personal stories, how-to guides, quizzes, and more.

Quirkyalone is always there for you. It’s the album that sounds good ten years after you buy it. It’s like a mix tape: No matter what mood you are in, you can find a song that speaks to you.

It’s a resource to share with your friends, your parents, your co-workers, or your partner (if you have one)—especially friends and relatives who have been wondering (all these years) what is up with you. No matter what category you fall under (quirkyalone, quirkytogether, quirkyslut, or quirkyobserver), this book will make you see the world through a different lens.

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Quirkyalone has been translated and released in Brazil, Denmark, and Germany. In the U.S., Quirkyalone is available at bookstores nationwide and on Amazon.

Update: If you love my book Quirkyalone and want to make these principles more real in your life you can get support directly from me. I work as a coach to help people enjoy being single as the foundation for a happy life–and a great relationship. I have a structured 3-month program Project Enjoy where I work with you one-on-one to create a transformation in this area of your life to be happy with or without a partner. I also offer coaching on other life issues, including taking bold life leaps and creative projects. Be in touch!

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What’s a quirkyalone?

You have landed on the online home of the quirkyalone movement!
A quirkyalone is a person who enjoys being single (or spending time alone) and so prefers to wait for the right person to come along rather than dating indiscriminately. Quirkyalones prefer to be single rather than settle.
Quirkyalones can also be married or in a committed relationship (quirkytogether). You can be a man or a woman, any age. Quirkyalone is ultimately a philosophy about finding happiness within yourself whether you’re single or in a relationship.

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