Hello! I’m Sasha Cagen. I am the author of Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics and I founded the quirkyalone movement back in 2000.
I’ve been writing, talking, thinking, coaching, and teaching about being living an inspired, empowered quirkyalone, quirkytogether, a quirkyslut life, and more since all the way back in the late 90s when I first coined the term “quirkyalone” in a 700-word essay in my own magazine To-do List.
The adventure of the quirkyalone movement continues and is always taking on new manifestations. I never could have predicted that fusing these two words together would be so powerful, or that so many different kinds of people from all over the world would identify so strongly with “quirkyalone” and become part of this movement. When you’re quirkyalone like me, you know that being single is not a disease. Being single doesn’t mean you are broken. You can live a fulfilling life as a single person with work, family, passions, friendships and meaningful relationships that are not “the one” for the rest of your life. And you probably do want a great committed healthy love relationship, and you know that you won’t be dissolving all your independence when you do find love.
Quirkyalone stands for confidence, true love, self-love, authenticity, and connection. It’s not so much about being happily single (although we stand for that too) as it is about being happy within yourself, where you are single or in a relationship. Quirkyalone is about being true to yourself and forging relationships based on your authenticity. Those are my values too, as I craft a life that feels authentic to me, and I help others do the same in the business of services I have created to serve quirkyalones: my private coaching, workshops and travel adventures.
My work as a writer, life coach, and community-builder has been featured in the New York Times, CNN, NPR, USA Today, MSNBC, London Guardian and more.
When I’m not writing or coaching, you can find me dancing tango, either in Buenos Aires or in the Bay Area. I had a life as a Silicon Valley startup entrepreneur, and after this experience, I ran away to South America to get out of my head and into my body. Those healing travels will be told in my new book, a memoir called Wet. WET — yes, you heard the title right, is the story of how I faced the darkness in my past and found my power as a woman through my sensuality and sexuality. WET is percolating in my computer and I can’t wait to share it with you.
Rhode Island is my home state. And Rhode Island is pretty quirky. So that might explain it. . . I went to public high school in Cranston, Rhode Island, the trashy armpit of Rhode Island, at least that’s how people saw it when I was in school! I did college at Amherst and Barnard Colleges. I lived in the Bay Area, California most of my adult life, and I currently split my time between Oakland, California and Buenos Aires, where I share tango bliss with my quirkyalone readers.